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Presentation 6: Chastisement by Norische
Filed in: training
This position is meant to be humbling by its very nature. This position works well when you are being force to chastise or correct the slave. For this position the slave should be kneeling. Legs: Th[...]
Presentation 5: Kneeling at the Ready by Norische
Filed in: training
This position is primarily used when a slave is kneeling waiting for instructions or waiting to serve. This position is good when you have placed the slave in a corner or when you want their full atte[...]
Presentation 7: Apology by Norische
Filed in: training
An appropriate apology is a combination of words, attitude and stance. A well structured, well thought out apology is half the battle…however the right amount of humility added to this recipe o[...]
Every ROSE Has A Thorn: Honor, Respect and Protocol Amongst Dominants by Norische
Filed in: dominance, rules, etiquette, protocol
Recently a submissive I was communicating with informed me that a Domme from Missouri, where I am from, told him that I was a fake. He would not give me the specifics but in general he stated that thi[...]
Our Absolute Lifestyle by Master Eso
Filed in: leather, lifestyle, scene
When I came out in the BDSM scene some 6 years ago, after practicing my lifestyle in the privacy of my own home for some 23 years, I did so under the naïve assumption that the B[...]
Absolute Slavery by Master Eso
Filed in: relationships, d/s, slavery, tpe
Absolute Slavery The basic requirements and general rules and dynamics of Absolute Slavery and Absolute and Total Power Exchange (APE/TPE), as compiled by Master Eso © 2003 ====[...]
Honorifics, Titles and Respect by Master Eso
Filed in: speech, protocol
When a slave or submissive is "asked" to call all Dominants Sir or Ma'am they are not being forced to show added respect, beyond basic respect or common courtesy. The use [...]
Knights vs. Gods by Master Eso
Filed in: dominance, definitions
Naturally, for most slaves and submissives it is a most desirable, pleasing and romantic thought and wish to find and serve ones “Knight in Shining Armor”. And finding on[...]
Slave Petitions by Master Eso
Filed in: slavery, contracts
In my article “The Process Of Selection”, I have already proposed the similarities between finding or petitioning a Master, and finding or applying for job employment. In[...]
An Esoteric View: Civility and Incivility in The Scene by Master Eso
Filed in: etiquette, scene
In this essay, God is mentioned and referred to in numerous instances. This might be bothersome to some of us, although it really should not be. For God is just another description, [...]
Goodbye SSC by Chuck and Donna Cosimano
Filed in: general knowledge, ssc
When SSC was promulgated as a doctrine back in 1980s it was never intended to become the monster it has grown to become. It was a publicity gimmic purely and simply, designed to make our little hobby[...]
The New Erogenous Zone by Mystik
Filed in: training
“Training” equals a Dominant’s FANTASY WORLD. I have been told that there are some things that have no training value. HELLO? Well, that’s a mystery to me! BDSM is not a cu[...]
The New VT Submissive by dark whisper
Filed in: submission, online
So you've come to the realization that you are most likely a submissive, aye? Are you a little, or maybe not so little, afraid? What does the world of BDSM or D/s hold for you? How will you know which[...]
Coming out of the Closet by dark whisper
Filed in: leather, lifestyle, outting, family
I recently found myself in the unique position of having to try to "explain" dominance and submission. One afternoon, out of the blue, I wrote to my sister and told her not only that I was a[...]
VT Serves -- is there a purpose? by dark whisper
Filed in: submission, online
When I first found my way into a chatroom based on BDSM, I felt like I'd gone to an alien planet. There were those speaking in third person, or Olde English as if it was the natural order of the day. [...]
The Teacup by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
A couple vacationing in Europe went strolling down a little street and saw a quaint little gift shop with a beautiful teacup in the window. The lady collected teacups and she wanted this one for her c[...]
A Collar and Its Many Meanings by Unknown
Filed in: collars, protocol
A collar in BDSM symbolizes a commitment that has often been compared to a wedding ring. This type of commitment comes in other forms, such as a brand, a tattoo, a piercing[...]
BDSM Truth or Dare by #Submission
Filed in: humor, fun
A game of T or D is always encouraged on channel. Some will play and some won't, so just talk and play around each other. It makes for a fun time. Thanks to the member[...]
Ceremony of Submission by Ds Kiosk
Filed in: collars, ceremony
To be conducted privately after dark, with prior knowledge and consent of both participating parties. Participants: Buyer (later becomes the Master) Girl (later becomes the Slave) To the Girl: Thi[...]
Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules by Screamer
Filed in: health and safety, online, dating
Safety 101 Class #1 - Online D/s - AOL or IRC Even in our little online world, there is danger. For all new Doms and subs alike, here are a few [...]
Rediscovering and Modernizing The Geisha : New Submissive Perspectives In Contemporary BDSM by Pantheris
Filed in: submission, service, geisha
The geisha is a potential site for exploration and experimentation in the world of BDSM today. As the world undergoes a shrinkage, globalization allows cultural crossovers; this not only per[...]
The Taking Ceremony by Cuffs.com
Filed in: collars, ceremony
Master: We are here to be joined as Master and slave and to take or vows as such. woman, come before me in silence, make yourself naked and assume the position of rest. The woman removes ALL of her [...]
An Interesting View of Sadomachism by Donald L Miesen
Filed in: humor, sm, sadomasochism
SM: The Erotic Game SM: The Erotic Minority SM: The Erotic Controversy SM is watching the neighborhood kids play cops and robbers, and the look on the face of the one that has maneuvered herself int[...]
The Perfect Slave by slave girl
Filed in: slavery, definitions
How does one begin to write an essay giving a definitive description of the perfect slave? I believe that there may be as many descriptions for that as there are Masters in this world, as it h[...]
The Dominant by By TorqueDom
Filed in: dominance
Above all else he cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how t[...]
I am a Submissive Woman by laKajira
Filed in: submission, inspirational
I am a submissive woman. I find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship. I am not weak, or stupid. I am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear co[...]
Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange by Molly Devon
Filed in: ssc, d/s, sm
1. TRUST AND COMMUNICATION ARE THE KEYS TO MAKING SM OR D/S WORK. People make errors, most often out of ignorance. Trust depends on honest communication. Incomplete negotiation is an error, but dis[...]
Sample Consensual Contract by Author Unknown
Filed in: dominance, submission, contracts
This contract is provided as a secure and binding agreement which defines in specific terms the relationship and interaction between two individuals, hereafter termed the slave and the mas[...]
Using Clothespins in BDSM Play by Sir Sparehawk
Filed in: clamps, play
Definitions using an open clothespin diagram. hole spring | /________________________________\__n__0________________________/ leg __u__0________________________/_______________________[...]
On Cane Making by From USENET
Filed in: caning, toy-making
I have taught classes on making and caring for canes. Soak the ratan in the bathtub for several hours which will allow you to straighten it. Cut into lengths. Swing the cane, using each end to s[...]
The Gift by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
The Gift and the Giver, the Rebel, the Thief, and the Stranger and his Glue The Giver was alone, and the Gift unused: the Giver felt lonely, and sought to find someone worthy of the Gift. The Rebel[...]
The Master II by Author Unknown
Filed in: dominance, inspirational
What should a Master be? The question can only be answered individually by both Masters and fledglings alike. Here is my rendition of what a Master should be. The Master is a strong man, a domin[...]
Age Play: The Truths and The Myths by Melissa
Filed in: age play
IntroductionHi my name is Melissa but I am better known as missy. My talk today is titled Ageplay: The Truths and The Myths. In choosing that title, I know I am kind of misleading you, since basically[...]
A Top's Guide to Bondage Bottoms by Michael Nelson
Filed in: general knowledge, bondage
1 - Introduction * Why do people want to be tied up? * How do their preferences for bondage differ? * How do you recognize and accommodate their needs? * Why do bondage scenes sometimes &q[...]
Selecting Rope for Japanese Bondage by Unknown
Filed in: how-to, bondage, rope
People frequently ask me what kind of rope I recommend. As with buying a computer, the answer is always "that depends on what you're trying to accomplish with it." There are a variety of asp[...]
Doing It Yourself by David Stein
Filed in: how-to, bondage
"Self-bondage" may seem like a contradiction in terms -- after all, if you tie yourself up, you'd better be able to un-tie yourself, meaning that you'll have to stay in control and won't be [...]
Strict Self-Bondage by David Stein
Filed in: bondage
If nothing else, self-bondage has the advantage (as an anonymous wit once said of masturbation) that you don't have to look your best. You needn't impress or arouse anyone else. You can do it when you[...]
The Cane by John Bomberger
Filed in: toys, caning
The cane is an excellent instrument for use in administering corporal punishment. A cane is made from rattan and is normally 30 - 36 inches in length and comes in various diameters ranging from 1/4 t[...]
Gorean Slave Positions by Unknown
Filed in: gorean information, positions
Nadu (Pleasure Slave Position) The first and most often used of all of the Gorean slave positions, and one of the first ones a slave learns. The command gets its name, Nadu, from the Gorean word for [...]
Aftercare by Unknown
Filed in: aftercare, play, scene
Immediately following a bdsm scene, there is the potential for adominant and his submissive to have some wonderful time together.Most people who use this time call it after care. I would urgeanyone to[...]
Electricity Play: Demo Report by Bob Kosovsky
Filed in: health and safety, electroplay
On Nov. 9 [1994] the Gay Male S/M Activists (GMSMA) [of New York] had an evening devoted to the use of electricity. The man and woman who led the demonstration (I did not catch their names) basical[...]
Electro Stimulation play by Unknown
Filed in: electroplay
* All Materials were obtained by many sources and research and personal experience and by no means are to be taken as The Bible of Electro Stimulation Play. * Extensive Research on Electro Stimulation[...]
Common Sense by Sean R. Powell
Filed in: newbies, general knowledge, d/s
My name is Sean and I have been actively participating in the D/S community for over 20 years. I have a published book available at Amazon.com (Sensual Intelligence....An Intimate Path Towards P[...]
Tools of Consent in BDSM by
Filed in: negotiation, consent
Communication"Communication, communication, communication." You will hear this over and over again as you get to know more about BDSM. Communication occurs before, during, and after scenes; [...]
Floggers: Types and Usage by mysteria
Filed in: toys, flogging, play
I remember when I saw my first flogger, a long suede black one, hanging on a wall in a friends house. I picked it up playfully swinging it in a swirl and asked "What's this thing? Some s[...]
Ceiling Bolts by Jeff Dominant
Filed in: toys
There are several ways to install hooks in a conventional ceiling but all will require a hole of some size. However, if you use hardware which is just big enough for the job and install it carefully w[...]
Learning to Be a Dom by Master Demetrius
Filed in: dominance, newbies
Even though I'd had Dom impulses all my life, I still had to travel the same learning curve that any Dom does. It's one thing to have an impulse, and quite another to learn how to act on it effectivel[...]
Advice to a Novice Dom by Washington Sexuality University FAQ
Filed in: dominance, newbies, general knowledge
(note: The spellings here, "hir" "sie" etc. are unisex conventions. These indicate that it applies to either gender. These are deliberate, they are not misspellings.) There are [...]
The Responsibilities and Duties of a Dom by LES IS MORE(m)
Filed in: dominance
Being Dominant/submissive is a state of mind. It is not a sex act, it is not a game, and it is not a role. It is a state of being and is totally asexual (neither male nor female)First and foremost, a [...]
What Should a Dominant be? by Lord Wolf
Filed in: dominance, definitions
A few personal speculations about the lifestyle and those who participate in it...what follows is my opinion and in no way states Mine is the only path to follow. there are many differing opinions out[...]
