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Shocking! Absolutely Shocking!: Part I - The Beginners Guide to The Violet Wand by Norische
Filed in: electroplay, beginners
A BRIEF HISTORY For centuries man has been fascinated by electricity; the mystical, magical illusion of power and fire all rolled into one tangible source. Since 1745 when Georg Von Kleist discovered[...]
10 Doms Online by Unknown
Filed in: dominance, humor, newbies, online
1. The 'I Am Dom Hear Me Roar' Dom: All shiny new leather wear, with a belt full of toys (just bought at Jack's Whip-O-Rama). Of *course* he knows what to do! He read SM101...and even watched Ex[...]
On Love and D/s by Lord HamiltonZ
Filed in: relationships, d/s, love
There seems to be a feeling by some, that "love" lessens Dominance. That tenderness equates somehow with a lessened sense of "Mastery". Rubbish. Dominance and submission are emotio[...]
"My Way or the Highway" by kaela
Filed in: needs, wants, compromise, balance, expectations
As a submissive, I have needs and wants. While it may be difficult to distinguish between the two, I know what makes me tick and what makes me happy. And for me, submitting to my master[...]
Warning Signs for Submissives by RC Bauer
Filed in: submission, newbies, warning signs
Introduction Some of the things I write about are my personal experiences. I also write about experiences others have shared wit[...]
Candlelight Moments: Basics of Wax Play by Norische
Filed in: how-to, wax play
For many wax play is one of the first experiences within the BDSM realm, this is also the reason that so many people end up getting accidentally hurt. All too often someone is watching a pornographic [...]
The Psychology of Slavery: Understanding Consensual Slavery by Norische
Filed in: control, power, behavior, consensual slavery, realities
Aeschylus – Destiny waits alike for the free man as well as for him enslaved by another’s might. Throughout time millions of individuals have fought and died to free their brother, friend,[...]
All Wrapped Up In Myself: Mummification Part 3 - The Adventure Begins by Norische
Filed in: how-to, bondage, mummification
Now that you have explored all the safety issues and to some degree you have ventured into the realm of possibilities where wrappings are concerned, now the adventure begins. Set up a general area [...]
The 12 Days of Kinky Christmas by Unknown
Filed in: humor
On the 1st day of Christmas, my master gave to me... A Small Feather Pillow for my knees. On the 2nd day of Christmas, my master gave to me... 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knee[...]
Serve, Service and Servitude by Ms Lyn
Filed in: submission, service, definitions
What do you mean when you offer to serve? What do you mean when you offer to be of service? What do mean when you offer yourself in servitude? Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of [...]
The Process Of Selection by Master Eso
Filed in: relationships, dominance, d/s, dating
There is a general nostalgic and romantic conception amongst Masters and slaves. It is the conception of Masters going to a slave market, and select a slave, or bid for a slave on au[...]
Caffeine Addicts of Gor: A Guide to Gorean Black Wine: A Real Eye-Opener by unknown
Filed in: gorean information
On any world, a good strong cup of coffee is considered both a delicacy and, to many, the ideal quick pick-me-up to enable a person to shake off the effects of alcohol or to greet t[...]
Choose Your Words Carefully I: Don't VS Stop by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
Within the vanilla world there are many words that we use without consideration. Words that seem ordinary within one realm gain quite a different meaning within the realm of BDSM. Simple words that ar[...]
Romanticism vs. realism by Polly Peachum
Filed in: submission, needs, romanticism, realism
From SubmissiveWomenSpeak.net, a now defunct website.Polly originally wrote this article on a private mailing list to explain to the small readership, most of whom were self-identified romantics, why [...]
On My Honor: Understanding the Moral Obligations of a Dominant by Norische
Filed in: dominance, d/s, protocol
What is a Dominant's moral obligation to his or her slave? This is a very interesting question, one that can be answered in many manners. In order to understand what a Dominant\'s moral obligation to[...]
On Being Worthless by Rick's Fucktoy
Filed in: training, humiliation, experience, slut
it's a concept that i can understand so clearly in my head, yet i have been struggling to find the words that will explain it to someone who might read my thoughts and want to understand my perception[...]
Floggers: Types and Usage by mysteria
Filed in: toys, flogging, play
I remember when I saw my first flogger, a long suede black one, hanging on a wall in a friends house. I picked it up playfully swinging it in a swirl and asked "What's this thing? Some s[...]
Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules by Screamer
Filed in: health and safety, online, dating
Safety 101 Class #1 - Online D/s - AOL or IRC Even in our little online world, there is danger. For all new Doms and subs alike, here are a few [...]
A Submissive Bill of Rights by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, newbies
You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive [...]
10 Commandments for Newbies by LadyMary03
Filed in: newbies, rules, submissive, learning, experience, commandments
I. THOU SHALT BE RELENTLESS IN YOUR SEARCH OF KNOWLEDGE ...for there are many who are willing and eager to guide and assist you in your searchII. THOU SHALT NOT BE HAUGHTY OF MIND ...for we all are st[...]
A Slap in the Face by Rick's Fucktoy
Filed in: slapping, humiliation, mindset, technique, degradation, slap in the face
I don't think I could ever forget the first time I felt it. He was buried deep inside me as my thighs straddled His hips, riding Him slowly as we talked. I don't remember what we were talking about or[...]
Submissive Male in Society by Bluedeacon
Filed in: submission, scene
Q: What does it mean to me to be a submissive male in this society? Good question. First thing that *does* come to mind, is, contradiction. This society has not gone through male liberation, and does[...]
Choose Your Words Carefully IV: Dehumanization VS Depersonalization by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
Within the vanilla world there are many words that we use without consideration. Words that seem ordinary within one realm gain quite a different meaning within the realm of BDSM. Simple words that ar[...]
Serve, Service, Servitude? by Ms Lyn
Filed in: submission, slavery, service, serving, approach, suggestions, servitude
What do you mean when you offer to serve? What do you mean when you offer to be of service? What do mean when you offer yourself in servitude? Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of yo[...]
Doing It Yourself by David Stein
Filed in: how-to, bondage
"Self-bondage" may seem like a contradiction in terms -- after all, if you tie yourself up, you'd better be able to un-tie yourself, meaning that you'll have to stay in control and won't be [...]
A Dominant's Creed by Author Unknown
Filed in: dominance, inspirational
Above all else a Dom/me cherishes Their submissive, in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives Them is the greatest gift of all. A Dom/me is demanding and takes full advantage of the power g[...]
Untitled (They said.... You are Woman...) by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
They said... You are Woman ... Go out and conquer the world They said - be strong Don't betray your Sisters You don't need a man You are sufficient unto yourself They said - be strong Don't betray yo[...]
Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves by Norische
Filed in: newbies, lifestyle, dangers
The BDSM lifestyle harbors many dangers, oddly enough most people think only about the dangers to the submissive or slave and not to those dangers present for the Dominant. Among the thousands of dedi[...]
Selecting Rope for Japanese Bondage by Unknown
Filed in: how-to, bondage, rope
People frequently ask me what kind of rope I recommend. As with buying a computer, the answer is always "that depends on what you're trying to accomplish with it." There are a variety of asp[...]
The Clitoris: A how to of sorts by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, sex
I don't know if this is the same for every woman, so bear with me. A random sampling of my girlfriends made up this argument in the form of Public Service Announcement; your results may vary with othe[...]
Giving Erotic Massage by Unknown
Filed in: sex, massage, learning, erotic massage, sex tips
Relaxing Your Partner's Body Start by connecting with your partner. There may be specific ways you and your partner prefer to do this. If not, try kind words, soft gazing into each other's eyes, sync[...]
Whipping Wonderland (carol) by Unknown
Filed in: humor
Sung To The Tune Of "Winter Wonderland" Slave bells ring, are you listening? Through the pain, their eyes are glistening. A beautiful sight, We're happy tonight Walking in a whipping wonder[...]
The Vicissitudes of Submissive Development by Yaldah Tovah, M.D.
Filed in: submission, health and safety, temperment
From SubmissiveWomenSpeak.net, a now defunct website. In an earlier paper, I highlighted the developmental line that produces a healthy adult heterosexual submissive female (here). I highlighted the r[...]
Like A Slap In The Face: The Basics of Face Slapping by Norische
Filed in: how-to, slapping
There are many different types of impact play that exist within the realm of the BDSM world. None appear to be more controversial than face slapping. The effects of face slapping go farther than any o[...]
Mentorship by Mistress Constance
Filed in: general knowledge, beginners, mentors
One of the words we hear a lot these days is "mentor." People talk about the need for mentors in our community. Novices are looking for mentors. More experienced people call themselves mento[...]
A Dominant is NOT... by Author Unknown
Filed in: dominance, humor
1. The 'I Am Dom Hear Me Roar' Dom: All shiny new leather wear, with a belt full of toys just bought at Jack's Whip-O-Rama). Of *course* he knows what to do! He read SM101... and even watched Exit To [...]
Fear by kaya
Filed in: dominance, submission, slavery, fear, m/s, commitment, ache
For Master. When I used to say "Oh I want someone who can push me.. who doesn't stop when I say stop.. who does what they want and aren't guided by MY reactions", I can honestly say that I n[...]
Flogging In History by Che
Filed in: general knowledge, flogging
"The beautiful woman bent on her adorer a strange look from her green eyes, icy and devouring, then she crossed the room, slowly donned a splendid loose coat of red satin, richly trimmed with pri[...]
A Submissive's Creed by Unknown
Filed in: submission, inspirational
1 I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Top and I from from having the best experience possible, [...]
A Collar and Its Many Meanings by Unknown
Filed in: collars, protocol
A collar in BDSM symbolizes a commitment that has often been compared to a wedding ring. This type of commitment comes in other forms, such as a brand, a tattoo, a piercing[...]
Absolute Slavery by Master Eso
Filed in: relationships, d/s, slavery, tpe
Absolute Slavery The basic requirements and general rules and dynamics of Absolute Slavery and Absolute and Total Power Exchange (APE/TPE), as compiled by Master Eso © 2003 ====[...]
A Complete Erotic Massage (for Men or Women) by Society for Human Sexuality
Filed in: how-to, sex, massage
1. Start by setting the space. The room should be warm enough for someone to be comfortable lying down naked in it (at least 78 degrees). Play some soft music, and possibly burn some incense. Turn off[...]
A Top's Guide to Bondage Bottoms by Michael Nelson
Filed in: general knowledge, bondage
1 - Introduction * Why do people want to be tied up? * How do their preferences for bondage differ? * How do you recognize and accommodate their needs? * Why do bondage scenes sometimes &q[...]
Scene Speech by Author Unknown
Filed in: speech, scene
Scene speech is a language that we develop and use solely in-scene. We reserve this speech to augment and accentuate the atmosphere of the scene and often to heighten the sensory experience for both D[...]
Afternoon Tea 1: An Experience in British Tea Service by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol
Tea: A History While there are volumes of information about the rich and illustrious tradition of Tea Time in Britain, information of the earliest introduction of tea to England and its associates ar[...]
Can I Get That In Writing: Basics Of Negotiations by Norische
Filed in: how-to, negotiation, play, scene
Negotiation – a discussion between two or more individuals, in which each individual presents a format of requirements, desires and limits, during this discussion each party will review the sugg[...]
Get To The Point: Basics of Quilling (With Real Porcupine Quills) by Norische
Filed in: how-to, needle play, beginners
The art of Quilling is something that has been around for ages, unfortunately however it seems to be a lost art. This article will explain the safety issues, basic information on and use of porcupine [...]
Shibari History by Calais
Filed in: bondage, rope, shibari, history
ShibariHistory of originMost of Japanese culture was in fact brought in from it's surrounding countries, through invasion or by trade routes, including India, Korea and China. It is not known whether [...]
'Twas The Night Before Christmas by Unknown
Filed in: humor, poetry, holidays
'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house Not a creature was stirring, not even my spouse; The paddles were hung in the cupboard with care, In hopes that her bottom soon would be[...]
Before Scene: Interview by Norische
Filed in: negotiation, play, scene, checklist
Interview Name: __________________________________________________________________ Age ____________ Gender___________ Sexual Orientation ____________________ How Top wishes to be addressed. _______[...]
