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BDSM Play Partner Checklist by Sovereign House
Filed in: negotiation, play, scene, checklist

A checklist

Play Party Etiquette by Non-Famous Lauren
Filed in: etiquette, protocol, play

The goal of this post is not so much to state playparty "rules" as to describe playparty customs and etiquette that often are not stated in the rules.

Reasons for Spanking by Master Paddledom
Filed in: punishment, spanking, play

I have thought for some time about the marvelous variety of spankings and the various results that can be achieved. Mixed with the proper caring and circumstances they can be a powerful psychological enhancer in so many different areas.

BDSM Toybox by Author Unknown
Filed in: toys, play, scene

Pevertible toy ideas

If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist by Norische
Filed in: negotiation, play, checklist

Very detailed BDSM Checklist

Before Scene: Interview by Norische
Filed in: negotiation, play, scene, checklist

A very detailed negotiations interview

Can I Get That In Writing: Basics Of Negotiations by Norische
Filed in: how-to, negotiation, play, scene

Basic Negotiation questions

Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol by Norische
Filed in: health and safety, play, safe words

A safe word is any word or phrase that is agreed upon by both the Dominant and the sub/slave as being an acceptable means of altering or stopping a scene.

Shocking! Absolutely Shocking!: Part IV - Techniques For The Violet Wand by Norische
Filed in: how-to, electroplay, play

Violet wands are incredibly versatile and can provide many different levels of intensity, techniques and sensations. This wonderful toy can provide anything from sensuous tingles to eye opening shocks; the sound and smell of the violet wand can drive the senses on a whirlwind adventure of fantasy and reality.

Shocking! Absolutely Shocking!: Part V - The Advanced Techniques For The Violet Wand by Norische
Filed in: how-to, electroplay, play

There are several advanced techniques that may utilize a violet wand; I am only going to cover three of such activities in this article, fire play, branding and needle play.

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