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Submission: From a Dominant's Point of View: What is a Submissive? by Norische
Filed in: submission
The basics of submission is a subject that has been explored for quite some time, and no matter how much contemplation one does, there is simply no way to define the exact nature of submission or the true nature of a submissive. The reason of this that each submissive is different and hence the defi[...]
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Defining the BDSM Lifestyle: The Essential Prerequisite, part 2 by Polly Peachum and Jon Jacobs
Filed in: dominance, submission, lifestyle, sm, definitions, bdsm, essentials
Jon's Speech Hi, there! Polly has said the bulk of what we want to talk about tonight, but I do have a bit to add. I want to talk some about the two SM life styles, including some good things about the SM subculture--which will proba[...]
Defining the BDSM Lifestyle: The Essential Prerequisite by Polly Peachum and Jon Jacobs
Filed in: dominance, submission, lifestyle, sm, definitions, bdsm, essentials
The following talks were given by Jon and Polly to a diverse audience on the IRC channel #surrender_discuss on October 8, 1996. Polly and Jon were asked to speak on the subject "Defining the BDSM Life Style."DEFINING THE BDSM LIFE STYLE:THE ESSENTIAL PREREQUISITEHello, my name is Polly Pea[...]
Submissive Needs vs. Submissive Wants by Polly Peachum
Filed in: submission, needs, wants
Polly wrote the following message on a mailing list she once belonged to, in response to another submissive's message. All information that might identify this woman or her situation has been removed.Someone said that when she tries to talk to her dominant and tell him what she needs, he seems to li[...]
Romanticism vs. realism by Polly Peachum
Filed in: submission, needs, romanticism, realism
From SubmissiveWomenSpeak.net, a now defunct website.Polly originally wrote this article on a private mailing list to explain to the small readership, most of whom were self-identified romantics, why she took such a hardcore stance in some of her writings. We thought that this piece should be publis[...]
Violence in the Garden by Polly Peachum
Filed in: submission, feminism, feminist
From SubmissiveWomenSpeak.net, a now defunct website. After being approached by a well known Third Wave feminist author who saw some of her work in the USENET news group alt.sex.bondage, Polly Peachum wrote Violence in the Garden for inclusion in a collection of Third Wave feminist essays. The book'[...]
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What NOT to say to your Dominant... by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor
Pushing limits does not mean making Master so angry the vein above his right eye throbs. "Quit it!" "Ow, damnit!" "I'm hiding that toy when you go to work tomorrow" and cursing a blue streak are not safe words. "Oh my god, where did you get those, they are gorgeous[...]
Orgasm Control by gina
Filed in: orgasm control, denial, training, submissive training
My Master and i practice Orgasm Control which is also known as Release Training. It is NOT the same thing as Orgasm Denial which both my Master and i do not feel is healthy. We have an agreement that i will never go longer than one month without having an orgasm. Usually [...]
Qualities of A Successful Dominant by Polly Peachum
Filed in: dominance
"The Problems Started After I Moved In" When talking to submissive women about their lives and relationships, the most frequent cause of sorrow and difficulty that gets mentioned is the transition from a non-live-in D&S relationship to a full-time live-in situation. Relationships that[...]
Making a Corset Pattern with Duct Tape by Robin
Filed in: corsets, corset, duct tape, crafts, sewing, pattern, corset pattern
If this is your first time doing a corset, then a pattern might be the best, however that patterns tend to fit the "average" figure. To make a rough pattern of what you are, just as a starting point I would suggest the old tee shirt and duct tape method. You need a friend to help or you mu[...]
A Master's Creed by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
For people who wonder about a D/s relationship and often feel it is "degrading" to a woman, this should clear it up. True D/s involves much love, respect, and trust. Here is what one Master wrote and I agreed with it completely. To me it epitomizes everything that should be in every D/s re[...]
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An inspiring article. This is the type of sub that I desire to be, and it is so well revealed here. Thanks for this.Aphrodite replied to The Power Of Submission
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miss peony replied to First Aid For the Corsetted
Thank you so much for posting this essay! I've worn corsets at SCA events for years and this is the first time I've ever seen someone put all the things I had to learn the hard way, as well as many things I didn't even know, in one consise well