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Orgasm Control by gina
Filed in: orgasm control, denial, training, submissive training
My Master and i practice Orgasm Control which is also known as Release Training. It is NOT the same thing as Orgasm Denial which both my Master and i do not feel is healthy. We ha[...]
Qualities of A Successful Dominant by Polly Peachum
Filed in: dominance
"The Problems Started After I Moved In" When talking to submissive women about their lives and relationships, the most frequent cause of sorrow and difficulty that gets mentioned is the tra[...]
What NOT to say to your Dominant... by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor
Pushing limits does not mean making Master so angry the vein above his right eye throbs. "Quit it!" "Ow, damnit!" "I'm hiding that toy when you go to work tomorrow" and c[...]
A Master's Creed by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
For people who wonder about a D/s relationship and often feel it is "degrading" to a woman, this should clear it up. True D/s involves much love, respect, and trust. Here is what one Master [...]
Blind Faith by Mistress Steel
Filed in: submission
BLIND: To conceal or to put something forward for the purpose of misleading. Subterfuge. One who acts to the point of insensibility. FAITH: To trust, give allegiance or loyalty to another. Fidelity t[...]
Some Rules - Dominants by Mystre
Filed in: dominance, rules
[it's mutual] 1. Be patient! Until you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and what[...]
Things To Know about Training a Slave by Author Unknown
Filed in: training, slavery
1. Know what you want. A master must be able to inspire confidence in others because he or she knows what they want, which implies that you know yourself and have scoped out what you want your slave t[...]
Limitations and Personal Growth by Rover
Filed in: dominance, submission
---------------------------- My usual disclaimer applies. These are simply My personal musings regarding a D/s topic. It works in My relationships, but certainly does not work in all relationships. A[...]
BDSM Definitions by D. Glenn Arthur Jr.
Filed in: general knowledge, definitions
BDSM = Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, S&M BDSM is a convenient abbreviation for most of the interesting activities discussed in alt.sex.bondage. It's so convenient that it [...]
More Things NOT to Say to your Dominant... by blushRedTail
Filed in: humor
- Is that the BEST You can do? - There is no such thing as long enough or hard enough... - i have NO limits - You wouldn't DARE do that... - i can take whatev[...]
Establishing a Protocol by Laura Antoniou
Filed in: training, rules, etiquette, protocol, behavior
A talk given by Laura Antoniou, December 1, 2000What is the number one reason for failure of an S/M relationship?Lack of consistency. Not failed flogging or lack of fetish wear. Consistency.Basicall[...]
Fisting (Vaginal that is) by chelgrrl
Filed in: how-to, fisting, safety, tips, vaginal fisting, large object insertion
I get a lot of responses when I say to people that I love to be fisted. Of course there is the Fister, the person who does the fisting and the Fistee, the one receiving the fist. Women fistees react i[...]
Clips and Clamps by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, clamps
First let me say this: Erotic pain is a very individual choice. Not all of you will find this appealing. For those who do, I hope this discussion will help you increase your skill. For those who don't[...]
Kids and BDSM by kaya
Filed in: outting, bdsm, safety, raising children, precautions
My daughter found the key and rifled through our toybox about two years ago. She was 12. This absolutely and completely traumatized her. She had enough knowledge (most likely from the internet) to kno[...]
Submissive's Sample Set of Positions for Memorization by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, training, positions
For Submissives of any Gender. Intended for Consensual Fantasy Play Only. ================ "Attention" Positions ================ 0 Standing upright, legs spread moderately, hands clasped [...]
Need, Of A Masochist by Tonja
Filed in: submission, masochism, desire, needs, need, acceptance
This is a concept I have, only really in the 2 years, been trying to define and understand as it applies to me individually.As a masochist, newer than some, and perhaps much more inexperienced than mo[...]
Absolute and Total Power Exchange by midnight
Filed in: relationships, d/s, tpe
This term is used to describe an absolute master/slave relationship, that is to say a relationship where the slave has irrevocably given over complete control of her person and life to her master, so [...]
Lessons Shared by kaya
Filed in: dominance, submission, humor, d/s, m/s
As anyone who reads my journal could tell you, I am far from the "perfect" slave. I slip and fumble, make mistakes, make the same one again... and again... routinely. But, tirelessly, my Mas[...]
Flogging In History by Che
Filed in: general knowledge, flogging
"The beautiful woman bent on her adorer a strange look from her green eyes, icy and devouring, then she crossed the room, slowly donned a splendid loose coat of red satin, richly trimmed with pri[...]
D/s VS Romance in Marriage by D.V. Leigh
Filed in: relationships, d/s, love
To me there is no conflict between Romance and D/s (Domination/submission) in a marriage. At least there shouldn't be any conflict. In the examples that I am going to give in this article I hope that [...]
First Aid For the Corsetted by Jane G. Beckman
Filed in: health and safety, corsets
Corsets are not things modern people expect or relate to. Most first aid courses are definitely not skewed toward dealing with people who wear period regalia. However, the problems of our sort need to[...]
A Hot Time In The Old Dungeon Tonight: The Basics of Figging by Norische
Filed in: how-to, health and safety, figging, torture, history
A moan escapes as her tongue darts out and moistens her quickly drying lips. Her delicate hands clench and unclench with frustration; she wiggles her fingers furiously as she tries to rid herself of s[...]
Hair bondage by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, bondage
Incorporating the hair in your bondage is appealing to many and for many different reasons. It dramatically increases the feeling of being restrained, it's incredibly intimate and personal, it can be [...]
Controlling the Slave by lauraTV
Filed in: dominance, submission, training
Although these suggestions were written specifically for the Mistress of a feminized male slave, many of them may be applied to a broad range of Dominant/submissive relationships. It is important for[...]
Top 10 Signs you are Too Old for BDSM by Unknown
Filed in: humor
10. Sensory deprivation is when your Dom hides your hearing aid batteries. 9. Your nipple clamps have training wheels. 8. Edge play is standing by the microwave with a pacemaker. 7. When you tell y[...]
Ten Commandments by Society of Janus
Filed in: dominance, submission, rules
Ten Rules for Dominants Ten Rules for Submissives 1 Be Patient Until you e[...]
Healthy Breast Bondage by Susan Wright
Filed in: health and safety, bondage, breasts
This document brings together information available on breast trauma and hypoxemia, usually quoting verbatim from the sources. Most of the information in Healthy Breast Bondage was found on the intern[...]
Warning Signs for Submissives by RC Bauer
Filed in: submission, newbies, warning signs
Introduction Some of the things I write about are my personal experiences. I also write about experiences others have shared wit[...]
Basic Gorean Slave Positions by unknown
Filed in: gorean information
Nadu, or Pleasure Slave Position The first and most often used of all of the Gorean slave positions, and one of the first ones a slave learns. The command is often called "Nadu,"[...]
How to Negotiate Play Parties, For Men by Peppermint
Filed in: etiquette, negotiation, protocol, play parties
I hold sex parties, and at every sex party, it seems like some guy messes up and pisses off some woman. In most cases, he is a perfectly nice and not at all creepy fellow who just screwed up slightly[...]
Top 10 ways to be a SAM by Lady K
Filed in: humor
Get up on the wrong side of the rack this morning? A little miffed after that 12 hour bondage scene yesterday? Not getting enough of the whip? Perhaps you are just feeling kinda SAMmy? These are the t[...]
The Power Of Submission by rarejewel
Filed in: submission
To understand the power of submission, one must first understand what being a submissive means, where it comes from and how it is expressed. True submission is something that comes from deep within a[...]
I Could Beat You For That, But You Would Enjoy It Too Much: Alternative Punishments That Work by Norische
Filed in: punishment
Punishment by nature is something that is to be avoided, something that is negative; it should be unwelcome and act as a negative motivator. It can be used to motivate a submissive/slave to start beha[...]
Introduction to Spanking by Unknown
Filed in: spanking, beginners
POSITION & POSTURE One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are ha[...]
If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist by Norische
Filed in: negotiation, play, checklist
There are a two primary reasons for this checklist, 1) Safety. In all scenes safety should be paramount. This checklist is created to cover health issues, safety issues, as well as personal preference[...]
Untitled (They said.... You are Woman...) by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
They said... You are Woman ... Go out and conquer the world They said - be strong Don't betray your Sisters You don't need a man You are sufficient unto yourself They said - be strong Don't betray yo[...]
One Dom's Point of View... by Michael P.
Filed in: dominance, inspirational
I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass [...]
Shibari History by Calais
Filed in: bondage, rope, shibari, history
ShibariHistory of originMost of Japanese culture was in fact brought in from it's surrounding countries, through invasion or by trade routes, including India, Korea and China. It is not known whether [...]
A Submissive's Ethics by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, inspirational
"I'm in charge!" This is a realization that some submissives have from the beginning and that hits others like a thunderbolt. The Dominant has Control, but the submissive chooses to be und[...]
Have You Ever? by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, inspirational
Have you ever knelt, naked, trembling, at your Master's feet....patiently waiting while he picks out the perfect flogger? Have you ever crawled across the floor, crop between your lips, with that ple[...]
Fear by kaya
Filed in: dominance, submission, slavery, fear, m/s, commitment, ache
For Master. When I used to say "Oh I want someone who can push me.. who doesn't stop when I say stop.. who does what they want and aren't guided by MY reactions", I can honestly say that I n[...]
The Myth of the BDSM Symbol by cajunrose
Filed in: emblem, controversy
Have you been contacted by an AOL user known as Quagmyr and advised that you were violating U. S. and International copyright law by using the BDSM symbol on your site? Did Quagmyr tell that you had v[...]
On My Honor: Understanding the Moral Obligations of a Dominant by Norische
Filed in: dominance, d/s, protocol
What is a Dominant's moral obligation to his or her slave? This is a very interesting question, one that can be answered in many manners. In order to understand what a Dominant\'s moral obligation to[...]
Lessons Learned by kaya
Filed in: humor, lessons, quips
As anyone who reads my journal could tell you, I am far from the "perfect" slave. I slip and fumble, make mistakes, make the same one again... and again... routinely. But, tirelessly, my Mas[...]
Just Getting Started : Tips for Dungeon Monitors by Jay Wiseman
Filed in: dungeon monitors, play parties, tips
For many years now, play parties have had special people fill the role of "dungeon monitors" -- or DMs for short These people are mainly there to ensure that the party rules are complied[...]
BDSM Play Partner Checklist by Sovereign House
Filed in: negotiation, play, scene, checklist
The more information a Top knows about their bottom, the safer and more exciting their playtime can be. Remember… communication is the key to all relationships, BDSM and vanilla alike! Below i[...]
Is It House Broke? Protocol Within Your Own Home by Norische
Filed in: training, protocol
What is protocol? Protocol - a series of rules and behaviors that are deemed appropriate and expected for certain circumstances. In today's BDSM society there is no set rules for protocol. Some port[...]
Some Rules - submissives by Mystre
Filed in: submission, rules
1. Be patient! A potential Dom{me} will let you know if she or he is interested in you or not. Keep in mind that your purpose as a submissive is to serve and to satisfy someone who will take into cons[...]
Strict Self-Bondage by David Stein
Filed in: bondage
If nothing else, self-bondage has the advantage (as an anonymous wit once said of masturbation) that you don't have to look your best. You needn't impress or arouse anyone else. You can do it when you[...]
Guidelines for Conduct by Sergeant Major
Filed in: submission, training, rules
The role of a submissive at a public gathering is to add a sense of grace, charm and tranquillity to the event by the demonstration of their understanding of their chosen role. This is done through th[...]
