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How to Negotiate Play Parties, For Men by Peppermint
Filed in: etiquette, negotiation, protocol, play parties

I hold sex parties, and at every sex party, it seems like some guy messes up and pisses off some woman. In most cases, he is a perfectly nice and not at all creepy fellow who just screwed up slightly[...]

Establishing a Protocol by Laura Antoniou
Filed in: training, rules, etiquette, protocol, behavior

A talk given by Laura Antoniou, December 1, 2000What is the number one reason for failure of an S/M relationship?Lack of consistency. Not failed flogging or lack of fetish wear. Consistency.Basicall[...]

Response to the Copyright Issue by Purr
Filed in: emblem, controversy

I think it's important, especially in a group of writers, that we reiterate that not everything that is posted on the internet may be 100% factual. Even if the facts are correct, interpretations var[...]

Basic Gorean Slave Positions by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

Nadu, or Pleasure Slave Position   The first and most often used of all of the Gorean slave positions, and one of the first ones a slave learns. The command is often called "Nadu,"[...]

The Gorean Caste System by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

     Gorean society is divided into "Castes." Each profession or occupation comprises its own caste, and each caste is ranked according to its particular place in Gorean [...]

Weights, Measures and Gorean Monetary System by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

  In any civilization, one of the most important aspects of societal interaction occurs in the area of commerce, or the business of conducting business. The exchange of trade goods is a vital par[...]

The Role of the Free Woman in Gorean Society by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

INTRODUCTION     Gorean society is populated by many different types of people of different caste and social status, but of all the inhabitants of the counter-earth, few are as fas[...]

Caffeine Addicts of Gor: A Guide to Gorean Black Wine: A Real Eye-Opener by unknown
Filed in: gorean information

    On any world, a good strong cup of coffee is considered both a delicacy and, to many, the ideal quick pick-me-up to enable a person to shake off the effects of alcohol or to greet t[...]

A Brief Introduction to the Planet Gor by _Marcus_ of Ar
Filed in: gorean information

     Gor is a world not unlike Earth, though slightly smaller in size. It possesses three moons, and due to its different mass and size the world of Gor has a lighter gravity field[...]

Blind Faith by Mistress Steel
Filed in: submission

BLIND: To conceal or to put something forward for the purpose of misleading. Subterfuge. One who acts to the point of insensibility. FAITH: To trust, give allegiance or loyalty to another. Fidelity t[...]

A Master's Creed by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational

For people who wonder about a D/s relationship and often feel it is "degrading" to a woman, this should clear it up. True D/s involves much love, respect, and trust. Here is what one Master [...]

Qualities of A Successful Dominant by Polly Peachum
Filed in: dominance

"The Problems Started After I Moved In" When talking to submissive women about their lives and relationships, the most frequent cause of sorrow and difficulty that gets mentioned is the tra[...]

Some Rules - Dominants by Mystre
Filed in: dominance, rules

[it's mutual] 1. Be patient! Until you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and what[...]

Things To Know about Training a Slave by Author Unknown
Filed in: training, slavery

1. Know what you want. A master must be able to inspire confidence in others because he or she knows what they want, which implies that you know yourself and have scoped out what you want your slave t[...]

Absolute and Total Power Exchange by midnight
Filed in: relationships, d/s, tpe

This term is used to describe an absolute master/slave relationship, that is to say a relationship where the slave has irrevocably given over complete control of her person and life to her master, so [...]

BDSM Definitions by D. Glenn Arthur Jr.
Filed in: general knowledge, definitions

BDSM = Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, S&M BDSM is a convenient abbreviation for most of the interesting activities discussed in alt.sex.bondage. It's so convenient that it [...]

BDSM Tips for Beginners by Lady Green and Jay Wiseman
Filed in: newbies, general knowledge

Hi folks. The following material is very closely based on the handout we give to the audience when we are invited to give an "SM For Beginners" presentation at a location such as a college c[...]

Orientation 10: Timing by Norische
Filed in: training

Timing is something that is frequently overlooked when it comes to training a slave. However, the aspect of training is actually very important. A slave that arrives too soon will make an owner feel r[...]

Clips and Clamps by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, clamps

First let me say this: Erotic pain is a very individual choice. Not all of you will find this appealing. For those who do, I hope this discussion will help you increase your skill. For those who don't[...]

D/s VS Romance in Marriage by D.V. Leigh
Filed in: relationships, d/s, love

To me there is no conflict between Romance and D/s (Domination/submission) in a marriage. At least there shouldn't be any conflict. In the examples that I am going to give in this article I hope that [...]

First Aid For the Corsetted by Jane G. Beckman
Filed in: health and safety, corsets

Corsets are not things modern people expect or relate to. Most first aid courses are definitely not skewed toward dealing with people who wear period regalia. However, the problems of our sort need to[...]

Flogging In History by Che
Filed in: general knowledge, flogging

"The beautiful woman bent on her adorer a strange look from her green eyes, icy and devouring, then she crossed the room, slowly donned a splendid loose coat of red satin, richly trimmed with pri[...]

Anal Odyssey by Mistress G and Alan
Filed in: health and safety, anal sex, scene

Why incorporate anal play into D/S scenes? It feels good; the area is sensitive and erotic, interconnected to sexual organs Produces a feeling of vulnerability and of penetration and p[...]

10 Doms Online by Unknown
Filed in: dominance, humor, newbies, online

1. The 'I Am Dom Hear Me Roar' Dom: All shiny new leather wear, with a belt full of toys (just bought at Jack's Whip-O-Rama). Of *course* he knows what to do! He read SM101...and even watched Ex[...]

7 Subs Online by Unknown
Filed in: submission, humor, online

1. POOR-ME SUB: This "sub" always has something going wrong in her life. Of course, it is never her fault... she is always being played upon and victimized by others. If only she found the *[...]

Consent With Awareness by Master Eso
Filed in: relationships, d/s, slavery, tpe

I am really not sure what the motivation behind concealing the truth and realities of consensual slavery is, as can be seen so often in other groups professed to APE/TPE lifestyle, o[...]

Limitations and Personal Growth by Rover
Filed in: dominance, submission

---------------------------- My usual disclaimer applies. These are simply My personal musings regarding a D/s topic. It works in My relationships, but certainly does not work in all relationships. A[...]

On Love and D/s by Lord HamiltonZ
Filed in: relationships, d/s, love

There seems to be a feeling by some, that "love" lessens Dominance. That tenderness equates somehow with a lessened sense of "Mastery". Rubbish. Dominance and submission are emotio[...]

BDSM Play Partner Checklist by Sovereign House
Filed in: negotiation, play, scene, checklist

The more information a Top knows about their bottom, the safer and more exciting their playtime can be. Remember… communication is the key to all relationships, BDSM and vanilla alike! Below i[...]

Play Party Etiquette by Non-Famous Lauren
Filed in: etiquette, protocol, play

The following document contains some valuable information about BDSM play party etiquette. It was written for users of the Usenet newsgroup alt.sex.bondage, and is intended to cover both events held i[...]

Polyamoury 101 by Cherie L. Ve Ard and Franklin Veaux
Filed in: relationships, polyamory

Closed Marriage n : Marriages where there is no emotional intimacy or sexuality outside the marriage. Closed Group Marriage n : A group of individuals who describe themselves as married but may or ma[...]

Reasons for Spanking by Master Paddledom
Filed in: punishment, spanking, play

I have thought for some time about the marvelous variety of spankings and the various results that can be achieved. Mixed with the proper caring and circumstances they can be a powerful psychological [...]

Scene Speech by Author Unknown
Filed in: speech, scene

Scene speech is a language that we develop and use solely in-scene. We reserve this speech to augment and accentuate the atmosphere of the scene and often to heighten the sensory experience for both D[...]

Some Facts about SM by Author Unknown
Filed in: general knowledge, sm

S/M is not an aberration. S/M is a sexual orientation that is found in a significant percentage of the population. Surveys have listed S/M behavior by as much as 7 to 14 % of the population, with inte[...]

S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. by Justin Medlin
Filed in: general knowledge, ssc, rack

I am sure that most everyone reading this knows what S.S.C. stands for......Safe, Sane and Consensual. Its catchy, easy to remember and it has been a worthwhile marketing slogan for the BDSM lifestyle[...]

The Need for Rules and Discipline by Sassy Sioux
Filed in: rules, discipline

We all have a need for discipline within our lives. It is part of the very fabric by which we live. We have rules that govern literally all aspects of our life, be it driving, paying taxes, how we act[...]

Submission by Choice: How to Work Your Way Back to Yourself by luna[KM]
Filed in: submission

Submission has been called a gift. It has been said to be a natural characteristic. Submission is also a choice. When I first entered the lifestyle, no one would have mistaken me for a submissive. I a[...]

Attracting and Keeping a Partner by Bluedeacon
Filed in: relationships, dating

This is kind of an odd thing, I'm not really people savvy - but then again if I can find people and keep one for as long as I have, anyone should be able to. For the record though, I think she should [...]

Emotional Safety by Bluedeacon
Filed in: relationships, health and safety

One of the elements of a good relationship that many people either overlook or are unaware of, is emotional safety, what it entails, and how to create it. My hope here is to explore first what it is w[...]

What are negotiations good for? by Bluedeacon
Filed in: negotiation

Negotiations are a good way to get to know one another, whether you are new to each other or have been with each other already, and continue to evolve. When you are new, it gives each person a chance [...]

On becoming 'Real' by Bluedeacon
Filed in: inspirational, general knowledge, d/s

Morning, all! I wanted to share something different with the group this morning. From time to time I've seen posts on and offlist about how a person doesn't yet feel like a sub/slave, or a dom/master[...]

Submissive Male in Society by Bluedeacon
Filed in: submission, scene

Q: What does it mean to me to be a submissive male in this society? Good question. First thing that *does* come to mind, is, contradiction. This society has not gone through male liberation, and does[...]

Looking Out for Number One by Kayla
Filed in: responsibility

I've been around the BDSM community for a number of years and have had my fair share of meeting new people for potential play/relationship consideration. Over time I’ve put together my own perso[...]

Top 10 Signs you are Too Old for BDSM by Unknown
Filed in: humor

10. Sensory deprivation is when your Dom hides your hearing aid batteries. 9. Your nipple clamps have training wheels. 8. Edge play is standing by the microwave with a pacemaker. 7. When you tell y[...]

Top 10 ways to be a SAM by Lady K
Filed in: humor

Get up on the wrong side of the rack this morning? A little miffed after that 12 hour bondage scene yesterday? Not getting enough of the whip? Perhaps you are just feeling kinda SAMmy? These are the t[...]

Whipping Wonderland (carol) by Unknown
Filed in: humor

Sung To The Tune Of "Winter Wonderland" Slave bells ring, are you listening? Through the pain, their eyes are glistening. A beautiful sight, We're happy tonight Walking in a whipping wonder[...]

More Various Christmas Carols by Unknown
Filed in: humor

"Tune of White Chirstmas" o/~ Sub's nuts roasting o'er an open fire Domme Frost nipping at their toes, Yuletide screams being sung by subchoir subbie girls in schoolgirl clothes... ..o/~ &q[...]

'Twas The Night Before Christmas by Unknown
Filed in: humor, poetry, holidays

'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house Not a creature was stirring, not even my spouse; The paddles were hung in the cupboard with care, In hopes that her bottom soon would be[...]

The Power Of Submission by rarejewel
Filed in: submission

To understand the power of submission, one must first understand what being a submissive means, where it comes from and how it is expressed. True submission is something that comes from deep within a[...]

BDSM Toybox by Author Unknown
Filed in: toys, play, scene

A friend recently told me about a fly swatter he had that's "Texas size." Cool! I have a dozen or so little girl hair clips I found that are iridescent butterflies and dragonflies and bumble[...]

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