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A Submissive's Ethics by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, inspirational
"I'm in charge!" This is a realization that some submissives have from the beginning and that hits others like a thunderbolt. The Dominant has Control, but the submissive chooses to be und[...]
Developing sub/slave Training Programs Part 2: The Training Phase by SAADE
Filed in: submission, training
The Training Program:Here we begin use the information gathered from the assessment phase. I divide the programming two categories: 1) Basic Training and 2) Advanced or specialty training.Basic Train[...]
Ten Commandments by Society of Janus
Filed in: dominance, submission, rules
Ten Rules for Dominants Ten Rules for Submissives 1 Be Patient Until you e[...]
Basic Gorean Slave Positions by unknown
Filed in: gorean information
Nadu, or Pleasure Slave Position The first and most often used of all of the Gorean slave positions, and one of the first ones a slave learns. The command is often called "Nadu,"[...]
Fetish Wear for a Tenner or Less by Lauren
Filed in: shopping, clothing on a budget, fetishwear
So you've finally plucked up the courage to go to your first club or you're just plain broke and want something new to wear. So what do you do? Well the short answer is - "be creative!" The[...]
Things To Know about Training a Slave by Author Unknown
Filed in: training, slavery
1. Know what you want. A master must be able to inspire confidence in others because he or she knows what they want, which implies that you know yourself and have scoped out what you want your slave t[...]
Making a Corset Pattern with Duct Tape by Robin
Filed in: corsets, corset, duct tape, crafts, sewing, pattern, corset pattern
If this is your first time doing a corset, then a pattern might be the best, however that patterns tend to fit the "average" figure. To make a rough pattern of what you are, just as a starti[...]
Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves by Norische
Filed in: newbies, lifestyle, dangers
The BDSM lifestyle harbors many dangers, oddly enough most people think only about the dangers to the submissive or slave and not to those dangers present for the Dominant. Among the thousands of dedi[...]
A Dominant is NOT... by Author Unknown
Filed in: dominance, humor
1. The 'I Am Dom Hear Me Roar' Dom: All shiny new leather wear, with a belt full of toys just bought at Jack's Whip-O-Rama). Of *course* he knows what to do! He read SM101... and even watched Exit To [...]
Tools of Consent in BDSM by
Filed in: negotiation, consent
Communication"Communication, communication, communication." You will hear this over and over again as you get to know more about BDSM. Communication occurs before, during, and after scenes; [...]
Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules by Screamer
Filed in: health and safety, online, dating
Safety 101 Class #1 - Online D/s - AOL or IRC Even in our little online world, there is danger. For all new Doms and subs alike, here are a few [...]
Seven Steps to Easy Fisting by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, fisting
Yes, you can get your whole hand inside your partner's pussy. For women who are into massive penetration, nothing is a bigger turn-on. No experience is necessary for either of you but if your gal pal [...]
Violence in the Garden by Polly Peachum
Filed in: submission, feminism, feminist
From SubmissiveWomenSpeak.net, a now defunct website. After being approached by a well known Third Wave feminist author who saw some of her work in the USENET news group alt.sex.bondage, Polly Peachum[...]
Absolute and Total Power Exchange by midnight
Filed in: relationships, d/s, tpe
This term is used to describe an absolute master/slave relationship, that is to say a relationship where the slave has irrevocably given over complete control of her person and life to her master, so [...]
Guidelines for Domestic Service by Sergeant Major
Filed in: submission, training, service, protocol
At gatherings of Dominants submissive(s) are often utilized to provide domestic service. The purpose of this piece is to provide some basic guidelines for submissive (s) who are called upon or volunte[...]
Guidelines for Conduct by Sergeant Major
Filed in: submission, training, rules
The role of a submissive at a public gathering is to add a sense of grace, charm and tranquillity to the event by the demonstration of their understanding of their chosen role. This is done through th[...]
The Punishment Place by kaya
Filed in: punishment, slavery, discipline, forgiveness
Sometimes I get punished for not following a rule, doing something I know I'm not supposed to or vice versa. Those punishments seem perfunctory. It's an integral part of our lifestyle, this discipline[...]
Floggers: Types and Usage by mysteria
Filed in: toys, flogging, play
I remember when I saw my first flogger, a long suede black one, hanging on a wall in a friends house. I picked it up playfully swinging it in a swirl and asked "What's this thing? Some s[...]
Clips and Clamps by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, clamps
First let me say this: Erotic pain is a very individual choice. Not all of you will find this appealing. For those who do, I hope this discussion will help you increase your skill. For those who don't[...]
Sensuous Caning by Conrad Hodson
Filed in: how-to, caning
INTRODUCTION Canes have a deserved reputation as The Victorian Terror Weapon. To most submissives, they mean severe punishment; to sensation-seeking S/M bottoms, overload. If we have care and patienc[...]
A Top's Guide to Bondage Bottoms by Michael Nelson
Filed in: general knowledge, bondage
1 - Introduction * Why do people want to be tied up? * How do their preferences for bondage differ? * How do you recognize and accommodate their needs? * Why do bondage scenes sometimes &q[...]
Flogging In History by Che
Filed in: general knowledge, flogging
"The beautiful woman bent on her adorer a strange look from her green eyes, icy and devouring, then she crossed the room, slowly donned a splendid loose coat of red satin, richly trimmed with pri[...]
Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange by Molly Devon
Filed in: ssc, d/s, sm
1. TRUST AND COMMUNICATION ARE THE KEYS TO MAKING SM OR D/S WORK. People make errors, most often out of ignorance. Trust depends on honest communication. Incomplete negotiation is an error, but dis[...]
Blind Faith by Mistress Steel
Filed in: submission
BLIND: To conceal or to put something forward for the purpose of misleading. Subterfuge. One who acts to the point of insensibility. FAITH: To trust, give allegiance or loyalty to another. Fidelity t[...]
A Submissive's Creed by Unknown
Filed in: submission, inspirational
1 I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Top and I from from having the best experience possible, [...]
Common Sense by Sean R. Powell
Filed in: newbies, general knowledge, d/s
My name is Sean and I have been actively participating in the D/S community for over 20 years. I have a published book available at Amazon.com (Sensual Intelligence....An Intimate Path Towards P[...]
What Should a Dominant be? by Lord Wolf
Filed in: dominance, definitions
A few personal speculations about the lifestyle and those who participate in it...what follows is my opinion and in no way states Mine is the only path to follow. there are many differing opinions out[...]
The Power Of Submission by rarejewel
Filed in: submission
To understand the power of submission, one must first understand what being a submissive means, where it comes from and how it is expressed. True submission is something that comes from deep within a[...]
Before Scene: Interview by Norische
Filed in: negotiation, play, scene, checklist
Interview Name: __________________________________________________________________ Age ____________ Gender___________ Sexual Orientation ____________________ How Top wishes to be addressed. _______[...]
Can I Get That In Writing: Basics Of Negotiations by Norische
Filed in: how-to, negotiation, play, scene
Negotiation – a discussion between two or more individuals, in which each individual presents a format of requirements, desires and limits, during this discussion each party will review the sugg[...]
Emotional Safety by Bluedeacon
Filed in: relationships, health and safety
One of the elements of a good relationship that many people either overlook or are unaware of, is emotional safety, what it entails, and how to create it. My hope here is to explore first what it is w[...]
The Myth of the BDSM Symbol by cajunrose
Filed in: emblem, controversy
Have you been contacted by an AOL user known as Quagmyr and advised that you were violating U. S. and International copyright law by using the BDSM symbol on your site? Did Quagmyr tell that you had v[...]
Master's Banquet - A formal D/s Feast by Slave Dove
Filed in: ritual, service, food service, protocol
These dinners are what many would view as a "scene" but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical "use" it is formal Old Guard Domination and submission at its g[...]
All Wrapped Up In Myself Part 1: Safety Issues With Mummification by Norische
Filed in: health and safety, bondage, mummification
For many people bondage is the most exciting thing within the BDSM realm. The idea that you are helpless, trapped under the ruthless control of a sadistic monster, leads to all sorts of interesting im[...]
The Need for Rules and Discipline by Sassy Sioux
Filed in: rules, discipline
We all have a need for discipline within our lives. It is part of the very fabric by which we live. We have rules that govern literally all aspects of our life, be it driving, paying taxes, how we act[...]
D/s VS Romance in Marriage by D.V. Leigh
Filed in: relationships, d/s, love
To me there is no conflict between Romance and D/s (Domination/submission) in a marriage. At least there shouldn't be any conflict. In the examples that I am going to give in this article I hope that [...]
What makes a healthy submissive? by Yaldah Tovah, M.D.
Filed in: submission, health and safety
1. The healthy submissive is capable of, and thrives on, intense, intimate, emotionally open relationships. This is often evident in the number of nourishing, sustaining, and life affirming friendship[...]
Some Rules - submissives by Mystre
Filed in: submission, rules
1. Be patient! A potential Dom{me} will let you know if she or he is interested in you or not. Keep in mind that your purpose as a submissive is to serve and to satisfy someone who will take into cons[...]
Anal sex: A Delicate Decision by Cadillac Carter
Filed in: sex, anal sex
What is it about anal sex that makes us squirm? People pretend they don't do it when they do and many of us clam up because we don't. Anal sex is the last sexual act we find embarrassing to talk about[...]
Introduction to Spanking by Unknown
Filed in: spanking, beginners
POSITION & POSTURE One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are ha[...]
Need, Of A Masochist by Tonja
Filed in: submission, masochism, desire, needs, need, acceptance
This is a concept I have, only really in the 2 years, been trying to define and understand as it applies to me individually.As a masochist, newer than some, and perhaps much more inexperienced than mo[...]
Choose Your Words Carefully IV: Dehumanization VS Depersonalization by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
Within the vanilla world there are many words that we use without consideration. Words that seem ordinary within one realm gain quite a different meaning within the realm of BDSM. Simple words that ar[...]
Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol by Norische
Filed in: health and safety, play, safe words
Safe words, when you are new to the BDSM lifestyle you hear a lot of new terms, one term that always seems to cause a little confusion is the term "Safe word". A safe word is any word or ph[...]
Like A Slap In The Face: The Basics of Face Slapping by Norische
Filed in: how-to, slapping
There are many different types of impact play that exist within the realm of the BDSM world. None appear to be more controversial than face slapping. The effects of face slapping go farther than any o[...]
Choose Your Words Carefully III: Humiliation VS Degradation by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
Within the vanilla world there are many words that we use without consideration. Words that seem ordinary within one realm gain quite a different meaning within the realm of BDSM. Simple words that ar[...]
Mystique De Lavage: The Basics of Enemas by Norische
Filed in: how-to, enemas
What is an Enema? An enema is the procedure of introducing liquids into the bowel via the anus. Enemas can be carried out for medical reasons, as part of alternative therapies, and also for erotic pu[...]
Origin of RACK: RACK vs. SSC by Gary Switch
Filed in: general knowledge, ssc, rack
During a discussion of SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) on the TES-Friends list, I proposed RACK (Risk-Aware, Consensual Kink) as an alternative. Here's my motivation: Nothing's perfectly safe. Cross[...]
Irresponsible Masters by Mystik
Filed in: dominance, submission, definitions
The slave is equal in personality, human rights and dignity. There are those who feel that the slave gives up her rights once she becomes her Master’s property. Wrong! First, she has the righ[...]
SM is... by Unknown
Filed in: humor
*SM is watching the neighborhood kids play cops and robbers, and the look on the face of the one that has maneuvered herself into being the victim - all tied up and the center of attention. *SM is wh[...]
BDSM Toybox by Author Unknown
Filed in: toys, play, scene
A friend recently told me about a fly swatter he had that's "Texas size." Cool! I have a dozen or so little girl hair clips I found that are iridescent butterflies and dragonflies and bumble[...]
