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Essays by kaya

Fear by kaya
Filed in: dominance, submission, slavery, fear, m/s, commitment, ache

For Master. When I used to say "Oh I want someone who can push me.. who doesn't stop when I say stop.. who does what they want and aren't guided by MY reactions", I can honestly say that I n[...]

Kids and BDSM by kaya
Filed in: outting, bdsm, safety, raising children, precautions

My daughter found the key and rifled through our toybox about two years ago. She was 12. This absolutely and completely traumatized her. She had enough knowledge (most likely from the internet) to kno[...]

Lessons Learned by kaya
Filed in: humor, lessons, quips

As anyone who reads my journal could tell you, I am far from the "perfect" slave. I slip and fumble, make mistakes, make the same one again... and again... routinely. But, tirelessly, my Mas[...]

The Punishment Place by kaya
Filed in: punishment, slavery, discipline, forgiveness

Sometimes I get punished for not following a rule, doing something I know I'm not supposed to or vice versa. Those punishments seem perfunctory. It's an integral part of our lifestyle, this discipline[...]

Thoughts on Isolation by kaya
Filed in: slavery, tpe, m/s, isolation, solitude

I live a fairly isolated lifestyle. I suppose in comparison to some people, you could say that I live an extremely isolated life. It's not unusual for me to go days on end without ever leaving the hou[...]