Well, yes and no.

You are expected to be exactly as you are. How are people to get to know you if you are pretending to be someone else? And if you looking for a partner, being yourself is what attracts them, not being who you think you should be around them.

Within the confines of a relationship your behavior may be modified. Some dominants require strict rules and regulations from bodily appearance to speaking and sitting on furniture. These things are agreed upon and are consensual. For example, my Master requires that I keep my body shaved from the neck down. It takes me a good half hour to do it all and I shave 3 times a week, but it makes me feel humble that I am doing this for him.

At groups and functions there may be a protocol. You may be required to call dominants by Sir, you may be required to speak to the dominant first before the submissive. You may not be allowed to touch anyone /anything without asking first. It’s all different for different places and you learn by asking.

–luna