The truth is that when one starts out in BDSM they will want more and more. However, it’s not like a fall off a cliff, you don’t keep progressing farther and farther. I like to think of it more like climbing a mountain with a lot of plateaus on it. It’s a long way to that first plateau as you learn who you are and what you want, what you need in a relationship and in play. Then when you get to that plateau, most will stay there for awhile, dabbling in what they have learned and are supremely happy there. Still others will stay there awhile, but yet find more they would like to try and then climb once more to another plateau.

Within the BDSM scene there are all sorts of people on this mountain, and none of them are on the same plateau. They extend the length of the mountain, happy with where they have landed, or planning on moving up the mountain yet again. It’s all about the journey, not the destination. You can’t know where you are going to stop you ascent. And you could just decide to go back down the mountain too, it’s all a matter of choices.

–luna

Portishead - Wandering Star