This one is a common misconception from those that don’t know about BDSM. Sex is not always a given in BDSM play. Although there are those that feel that sex has it’s part in a scene, not all players engage in sexual contact when they play.

So you ask, could I have play sessions without sex? Yes. Do I? Now that I am in a relationship, rarely.

When I was single and on my own I kept sexual intercourse out of the equation, saving that for when I had a commited relationship. I enjoyed bondage and sensation play a lot more I think because there wasn’t the expectation of sex within the scene.

The feelings and emotions you may have during a scene could be sexual in nature, they could be sensual. But that doesn’t mean that sex is necessary. It’s about the connection, the trip, the feelings and the power exchange of the two people involved.

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